Audacity To Be Queen
What does being a queen look like to you? I was just as baffled by this question as you are reading it as the opening sentence for this blog entry. Currently I am reading a book called "The Audacity To Be Queen" By Gina DeVee and it dives right into why the days of women dismissing themselves are over. It really caused me to wonder when I really let other people’s pre conceived notions of me dull my shine and down play my accomplishments to make others feel comfortable. Most importantly, why? Since when did it become acceptable for us play small in order to fit in?
I’m sure we all have felt like this at some point both in child and adulthood, romantically and professionally. I personally was observant and guarded before I opened up and tended to not vocalize my accomplishments of being in magazines (the most recent being for Health Monitor Magazine) , working with celebrities on projects, being a first generation college graduate, or being an influencer because I don’t want to come off as braggadocios. I’d always been afraid to step into my own power and clap for myself, but the time has come for that to end, because I am a Queen. Anything that you attract from a disempowered state will not last. I had to become aware of my own condition of codependency and make myself available for the next step, transformation.
In every woman lives a Queen who is kind, confident, clear on her calling and connected to a higher power. The lies we tell ourselves project the life we live because they have our energy. No longer am I afraid to tell people about my past, because I no longer live there. It is my responsibility to hone my spiritual ear through daily practices of : prayer, meditation, and journaling . By doing the listed below I was no longer available for shallow and contradicting conversations about my life. I had to guard my ears gates and the watch the words that would come out of my mouth, because I refuse to block my blessings any longer.
4 Values for Unapologetic Queens
1. What Others Say About You Is NOT Your Business
Queens aren’t interested in third-party conversations about them. Anything anyone says about you is ultimately a reflection of themselves and people will always have something to say no matter what.
2. Apologize When You Get It Wrong, Otherwise Don’t
When conflict arises, evaluate the circumstances. If you find you have missed the mark or contributed to the conflict take personal responsibility. Apologize and move on, because life is too short to hold onto anger.
3. Surrender The Other Person To Christ
You are not responsible for saving anyone, their journey is ultimately not up to you, God’s got this. Let people go in love and move on if they refuse to find a common ground with you.
4. Live Your Life
While having a balanced compassion for others, Queens are above all focused on living out there purpose. Don’t fixate on one negative persons world view, so you speak, so you think.
-XO
